Submission

     People are always shyed away from Christianity by the idea of submission. Women especially, because they are supposed to submit to God and their husbands.
     Women think that submitting to their husbands makes them weak. They think somehow it makes them worth less than their husbands.
     No one likes the idea of submitting to God. No one likes to think they aren't in control of their circumstances.
     All these issues with submission are trust issues. Women are afraid their husbands will abuse their power and look down on them. Women want to be seen as equals. Women may also not want to be a traditional housewife. Many women think that is part of submitting to a husband. But, this is misinformation. Submission is about a role and a mindset. Women are supposed to fufill the role of supporter to their husbands. How each husband needs supported depends on the man. For example, my husband and I decided to work to be debt free. My husband controls the money. But we both know our budget. However, recently he suggested we reduce our bills by cutting back our internet and changing insurance. I had to give up some online entertainment. I could have threw a fit and demanded we keep our current plan. But I submitted to his will because I trust him. I know he wants us debt free. Submission is a mindset that accepts someone's will for your life because you trust them.
     Trusting God's will for your life is harder. As a non-believer it is hard to trust someone you've never known. Even Christians can stop trusting God when life circumstances are difficult. When things are difficult we want to feel in control of our lives. Control makes us feel as if we can change our circumstances for the better. But we are supposed to SURRENDER control to God. We are supposed to trust that He has plans for us that are greater than we can imagine. Often He will not only lead us out of bad circumstances but use the sitiation to bring good into our lives.
     Trust really boils down to faith. Do you have faith in your spouse? As non-believer, you have to ask yourself if you believe that Jesus gave his life for you. If so, can you believe that same person would help you through your circumstances? If He would die for you, surely He would heal you. Or help you out of an abusive relationship. Or provide you a home. Or help restore your marriage.
     If you can trust your spouse, and God, you can submit to their will. It doesn't make you weak to be submissive. It makes you smart and strong!